Sharing memories in children: The importance of close and significative relationship

In this paper we discuss several aspects of the development of the memory function in children. We examine research contributions on the ability of children to collect and tell memories, we discuss the differences between traumatic and non-traumatic memories and how early experiences influence the memory processes. Several studies suggest that memory abilities develop within a relational context in which early experiences, relational experiences, especially with parents, and cognitive processes interact with each other in order to expand and increase the memory processes. A relational framework is also essential in order to formulate and process traumatic memories. Finally we discuss implications in child psychotherapy